Why you should avoid arguments at all costs

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Back in the day there used to be a kid named Odin, he was really good at handling people. Growing up, Odin would constantly argue with people around him. Mostly because he saw people around him as fools with no vision and perspective. As Odin grew up, he became known as the cocky know it all. People resented him for constantly arguing about every little thing. 

Growing up, Odin felt like he had to correct everything. Which led to constant arguments. As Odin learned more about human relations and persuasion, he realized his mistake. Odin realized 80% of the arguments he engaged in were not worth it. 

Most arguments typically don’t produce any outcomes. If anything, they lead to further self justification and resentment. I’m sure everyone has engaged in arguments before. Everytime you are about to engage in an argument ask yourself “Is it worth it?” or “Are we (you and the other person) going to be satisfied with the result of the argument?” If the answer is no, stop. 

If the other side insists on a conflict, tell them they are right to end the encounter. You will not lose anything by simply letting them get their way. Only a fool seeks validation from other people. It is enough for you to know you are right. 8 out of 10 of the arguments you indulge in only produce counter productive results. 

Throughout his life, Odin made sure to avoid conflict and encourage people around him to do the same. If he encountered a person insisting on arguing, he would tell the other person they were right to avoid an argument. Odin knew he would not lose anything from letting people get away with thinking their right, Odin did not seek validation from people. 

Always remember, 80% of arguments are not worth it. 

Authors Note

In this book, we examine Odin’s notebooks to learn how to win friends and influence people from him. We wish our readers don’t just simply read this story but also try to learn from Odin. 

Book: How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie (Purchase book on Amazon)

Lesson(s)

  • The only way to get the best out of an argument is to avoid it. Most of the time it’s not even important. 

Notice: All of the entities and locations mentioned in this story are fictional.

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